Q: Our men’s church choir group has booked a cruise for us and our spouses. Because we often wear tuxes at special church events, the director has ordered us to bring our tuxes on the cruise. The trip is srictly for pleasure, not involving any performances, and I’ve complained about it. I want to relax on my vacation, and not worry about dressing up at all. Am I right?

A: If you’ve seen actors at the Academy Awards lately, you know tuxes are fast going out of style. We suggest you talk to the other men, and if the majority says no tux, tell the director to fuggetaboutit. If you’d rather not defy the guy, offer to compromise by wearing sports jackets to major dinner and other dress-up events on the the cruise.