Q: I know you’re a travel website, not a lonely hearts club, but I have a problem that could involve both. I’m a 56-year-old male university prof and have been widowed for five years. There’s a woman prof in our department who's divorced. She’s been a great friend and colleague for a long time, but now I’d like to establish a deeper relationship.

She’s a fan of Elderhostel programs, and takes one or two every summer. Here’s my idea. If I invite myself to join her on a trip this year, or suggest one we can take together, do you think it can help us get closer?

Lonesome Prof, Boston, MA:

Q: We love to fly to Asia and Europe. Wait, let me put it another way. We love to visit Asia and Europe, but we hate the sardine-can seats in tourist class. We’re getting too old for that kind of torture. What extra money do we have to spend to get flights that offer Pullman type bunks, or at least seats that go back flat so we can sleep during those eight to 12 hours in the air?

Q: When I drive in retirement and resort areas of Florida, I see many very elderly people at the wheel on roads and highways, and it makes me nervous. I’m 66, and I know I’m beginning to have some eye troubles and my reaction times are slowing down. My kids tell me it’ll soon be time to give up driving. Should there be an age limit on renewing driver’s licenses?

Q: We’re booked for a cruise next month. We’ve heard that shore excursions from ships are expensive. Wouldn’t we save money if we just go ashore in ports to shop and explore at our own pace, instead of being herded around in groups?